“Pro-life” is not enough

There are three reasons not to use the pill.

1) It causes Abortion, which is murder, which is immoral.
2) It makes God’s creative act impossible by separating his natural way of creating life from
the venue in which he designed it, the marital union. Hence, it is immoral.
3) It is bad for your physical health (which is also immoral, if the person knowingly harms
herself).

Why do we still use the pill?

The answer is metaphysics. What is metaphysics? It is the fundamental realm of being. It is the natural way of life, organizing principles, and laws. Our immorality stems out of a denial of these principles. What the heck am I talking about?

A human is a human. That seems pretty obvious right? As crazy as it sounds, many actually do not believe this. Why don’t they believe this? So they can support abortion. Instead we have the view that a human is only a human when the mother (or, sadly, often the father, or grandparents) says it is a human. What’s that sound like?

Friend of pregnant woman: “Are you pregnant.”
Woman: “Yes. But I’m having an abortion.”
Friend: “You’re going to kill your baby?”
Woman: “It’s not a baby.”
Friend: “Then what are you pregnant with?”

This is a violation of a fundamental law of metaphysics: The Principle of Identity. This states that every being is itself or that every being is identical with itself. Or, in our current situation, an unborn baby human is an unborn baby human.

The third reason alone (physical effects) should be enough to deter anyone (cancer, blood-clots, etc.). The first two (moral) reasons are the most difficult to convince our secular society of, as we truly live in an amoral age of this world. Yet why are these reasons not deterring pill usage?

Let’s take a quick look at the recent history of the pill usage in our country. Let’s go to the 1930’s, yes, we had the pill in the 1930’s, don’t think it to be some invention of last few decades. There has also been abortion and infanticide (as well as contraception) for thousands of years.

My beef here is with pro-lifers. Christians have always defended life against these forms of child-killing. But in the 1930’s the Anglican Church okayed the use of the pill (for married couples only of course). This was received harshly by virtually every Protestant Church at the time (as well as the Catholic Church).

It didn’t take long for folks to figure out, if you can be married and not have children through pill usage, you can use the same pill out of wedlock, and a perfect platform for immorality was given a new glossy finish.

Contraception has always been immoral for reason #2 (preventing God’s creative act). Is it a coincidence that the most intimate act is also the only creative act? Who dares to remove God’s work of creation from its proper setting?

But that is not the only problem here. It also ends the life of a newly conceived soul! Yes, one of the ways the pill works is it ends the life of the already existing human by making an environment hostile to the little life. The very argument (of pro-lifers) against abortion is that it ends the life that was created after conception. So how can one who uses this argument also use the pill that ends a life after conception? We’re stuck in crappy metaphysics again. If you are against abortion you have to be against contraception or you contradict yourself. The pill causes abortions. To truly be pro-life, one must also have an anti-contraceptive mentality.

Abortion: Bad for your brain

Well at least it is according to all those wacky anti-choice advocates who just make stuff up like that because they hate freedom, right? Have you ever wondered what kind of evidence it would take for a pro-choice researcher to admit the connection between abortion and any of its negative effects? (You know, depression, suicide, drug and alcohol abuse, anxiety, sleep disorders, and other psychiatric problems, just to name a few). The answer is a lot.

So when David M. Ferugsson, pro-choice professor, noted in a paper on abortion and mental health,

"it is difficult to disregard the real possibility that abortion is associated with increased risks of mental health problems,"

it makes you wonder what he stumbled upon. You can sense his grasp of the definite problematic nature of abortion and simultaneously see his hesitancy to admit the damages of abortion. He comes off strong, "it is difficult to disregard the real possibility..." then he kicks it over into a defensive mode of, "but that is ridiculous and could never happen." His language shows his compensation for hiding the shocking truth. "...that abortion is associated with increased risk..."

Associated? Perhaps they are acquaintances? What he's doing is acknowledging a fact with weak language. The double-effect here is that while he can say he is reporting his findings, he is also saying "there is no conclusive evidence."

Allow me to rephrase his statement, "Only an idiot could ignore the obvious connection between abortion and poor mental health, but it would be a presumptuous long-shot to assume there is a link between abortion and mental health problems. And of course, that depends on what your definition of is is."

read it: http://www.blackwell-synergy.com/doi/abs/10.1111/j.1469-7610.2005.01538.x

Quote on marraige and pregnancy

I intended to relate this quote in my last rant, but it slipped away amidst the angry typing. This is in opposition to they typical attitude of "Marriage and family is for those with an IQ below 61." I saw a husband on some TV show say something to this extent about his wife being pregnant: "There are two times in a woman's life when she is more beautiful then ever, on her wedding day, and when she's pregnant." Amen brother.

Why is she so beautiful then? Because her love for another is physically evident. On her wedding day, by the white dress and through her pregnancy, by her belly. Compare this with one who is frustrated and confused when their friend is having a wedding or gets pregnant. Some just see the beauty of life-giving love, others are blinded and stupified by it.

Marriage is for quitters. Children are for losers.

"Why are you getting married?"

This is a fun question to field from a 30-something year-old disenchanted married man. I got a few of these snide remarks and a few of my buddies shared similar experiences during their engagements. Nothing like an regretfully married man trying to talk some sense into you. Maybe they are right. Why should a youngster get married? I mean, hey, why not wait till you're in your mid-30's, climb the corporate ladder, get established, see the world, figure out who you are (for the record i really hate that phrase), and then settle down. "Settling" seems precisely to be what most the world thinks marriage is.

Yes folks, I have given up. That's it. I just tried my hardest, but I figured marriage is the easy way out. Is that why people really think I would get married before 25? Hey I'm just getting started here! Marriage isn't the end of the road but the beginning.

Our problem today is that we are so incredibly self-absorbed that we have forgotten how to love. We only love ourselves in the sense that we only want what will make us feel good. We live in the United States of Narcissism. This is why Oprah is not my role model. Her credo is "It's time to feel good." Go ahead, eat that whole gallon of ice cream, do your yoga, read "What Color is your parachute." We are so self-centered that we cannot go from self-help to helping others. How can we love others if we cannot take our eyes off of ourselves?

Marriage is not about seeking to make yourself happy. It's about seeking to make your spouse happy. Yes, when you first meet someone, your motives are selfish. She's hot. She's funny. You like the way she makes you feel when you are around her. But as you grow closer together, you get to the point where if you love her, you will act as to please her. This is why marriage is difficult, because it's hard to put another before yourself. And this is why marriage is unthinkable to many today, because they cannot image putting another first. Further, they cannot see how self-sacrifice could actually be more fulfilling then watching Oprah elbow-deep in Sour Cream and Cheddar Lays. If the initial attraction and love never matures to a self-sacrificing true love, then there cannot be happiness, but only a bitter attitude that makes you see a young guy at his bachelor party and gripe at him, "Why you getting married?"

Marital love is meant to be self giving. And this is where children come from. A total gift of self gives new life. It is out of love that a life can come and this is a new opportunity to love. A child is not the answer to loneliness, that's what cat's are for. A child is meant to be nourished by a mother and father. Parents should be excited at the possibility of creating new life. What a great opportunity! What a blessing! Instead, kids today are those little things that prevent you from going out to bars late, from midnight screenings of Star Wars episode 98, from playing video games till 4 am. "He has no life," because he can't stay out late. Why can't his life be raising a new life? Instead of being thrilled to have the chance to raise kids we are disgruntled that we are being taken away from Grey's Anatomy and Halo. What a shame. Get over yourself .